As long as there is that voice of “not allowed,” as long as there are foods you feel you shouldn’t eat, you create struggle and conflict. As long as there is struggle, there is bingeing. And as long as there is bingeing, there is fear about eating what you want.
You can’t eat what you want and still lose weight because you don’t truly eat what you want. You eat in accordance with the Voice or in rebellion against it. But that voice is not your voice. It is the voice of whomever (your mother, lover, doctor) or whatever (any number of diets, articles, books) you have internalized. Over the years, you have come to believe it is not only your own voice but the correct one.
When you let go of the struggle by allowing yourself choice about what you eat, you let go of one end of the rope on which you have been tugging and straining. When you let go of your side, the rope immediately falls to the ground. War requires at least two sides. When you decide that you will listen to yourself and not to your calorie counter or your fears, there is nothing to rebel against. There is nothing you can’t have tomorrow so there is no reason to eat it all today.